My Story...

If you can relate to any of the above statements, I know how you feel. In 2012, my world came crashing down when I discovered my husband was having an affair. I was completely blind-sided. I never thought this would be part of my story. I was in shock. But I knew I wanted to work it out. I had four young kids, and I loved my husband. But I made the mistake of thinking I could do it on my own. I thought time would heal the wound. I thought my husband would make it up to me and fix it. I thought God would heal my heart with no effort on my part. After a year, nothing was better. In fact, I was in more pain than ever. I knew I needed help. I found a therapist and saw her every week for several months. It was mildly helpful, but I still wasn't finding the peace I was hoping for. Next, I tried an online therapy group. I loved the women in my group, but still didn't get the healing I needed. After two years I was able to at least move it farther back in my mind, but it was still there, bubbling to the surface from time to time. Then, eight years after finding out about the first affair, I found out it was happening again. I had my suspicions, but I had talked myself out of my own gut feelings. I didn't want to believe my husband would do this again. He had been having a long-term affair with one of my closest friends. There were more revelations after that. I knew at that point that I couldn't continue in that marriage. I got a divorce. It was the last thing I ever thought I would do. But divorce was only the beginning of my recovery. There was still so much thought work to do for myself. I didn't think I would ever be able to trust myself or anyone else again. A friend of mine introduced me to coaching. I knew immediately this is what I needed.  It was a much different approach than anything I had experienced before. The tools I learned helped me figure out what my deepest thought and beliefs were; about my husband, about marriage, and about myself. I was able to release the beliefs that were keeping me stuck in pain. I learned to process emotion instead of resisting or avoiding it. I learned how to understand and deal with the triggers that came up everywhere. I can help you do the same. After becoming certified as a life coach, I designed my coaching program to be what I needed in the aftermath of infidelity. Don't wait for healing. Learn how to manage your mind and find true peace. Whether you stay in your marriage or decide to leave, there is work for you to do for yourself. We can do it together.